Let us have a chat about time together and how we are going to manage being in such close proximity to each other for large amounts of time.
We find ourselves in uncharted territory where we are being forced, for the good of the community as a whole to distance ourselves and stay indoors (or at home at least).
This week I have been having honest and open discussions with all of my students about how they feel about this situation.
The general consensus that came up from the children were two emotions - excitement and anxiety.
We know 'fear is excitement without the breath' so these two emotions go hand in hand with each other.
Here are some ways to keep the healing process peaceful as we await for this chapter to pass.
My first piece of advice whenever I am dealing with any kind of uncomfortable emotion is to breath.
Feel into the emotion and accept how it feels, Notice where the emotion is present in the body.
I find that 3 - 5 breaths and I am feeling better already. If you can do this as a family when things are getting tense then fantastic.
2. Do not take anything personally -
On the flip side of breathing - it is OK and safe to vent from time to time. Being able to release anger and anxiety is a healthy process. So if your child, teen, partner or friend suddenly seem a little tense try to feel into what they need.
Do they need to talk 'at' you to get it off their chest?
Do they need space?
Do they need a cry?
We must be tolerant.
This leads me to ....
3. Clear communication.
Encourage talking in the home. Whether it be about what you are having for tea, or how you are going to pay the mortgage. And I mean that, don't hide money concerns from children. These are real life challenges and children will not see them in the same light as an adult.
Let me explain what I mean. A child will know and feel all of the tension and worries that their parents are facing. Many children, when experiencing stress from their parents can feel that they are to blame. Letting your child know that you have worries that have nothing to do with them, and in fact they are the ones that light you up and make you happy, will enable them to relax more and not take your stresses on board.
Also, you talking about your worries will help you feel better, whether your child can help or not - obviously use your discretion as a parent here - there is no point telling a 3 year old you will need to cut back on yogurts this week - however a sensitive 8 year old boy will benefit from some honest conversation.
4. Allow space.
Space is going to be a valuable commodity at home if you are self isolating. If a member of the family is taking themselves off for quiet time - allow them this space. You also require your alone space & time.
Ultimately, there is no right or wrong way to be at home with the family. How we get through this, as a society, will be down to our own making.
I encourage you, to find the light, the peace and the joy that is there.
I strongly believe that this is the time that we step into our purpose and prove ourselves as a global community.
With love and honesty always.